Last week I posted about the idea of “everyone” and invited you to really look at if you were handing over your power and your sense of self to a worthy group of people. Huge breakthroughs can come from just recognizing that the people who make up your “everyone” are folks who you wouldn’t really […]
Battle Tactics: Replacing Your Critical, Lying ‘Everyone’
The Road to Mordor: Gathering & Leading Your Fellowship
If you’ve committed to your “impossible” journey, I can pretty much guarantee you that you are going to need some major social support in order to make it all the way to success. The reason I can say this with such confidence is pretty obvious – if this were an easy journey, you would have […]
There’s a Crazy Dead Man in My Head
Last week’s post discussed the concept of your essential and social selves, and how your essential self lets you know you are on the wrong path. (If you missed it and need context, read it here.) This week is all about the social self, and the master this self serves, known as “Everyone.” We’re going […]
Battle Tactics: Rewriting Your Story
After weeks of writing about how to recognize and challenge our own internal negative stories, we’re moving on to using our natural storytelling brains to our own advantage. Today, we get to ditch our own internal victim and create our hero’s saga, thanks to Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. To begin, pick one of your life […]
Help! I feel icky!
For those moments when you are feeling overwhelmed and icky, and can’t figure out why… try this! (in downloadable pdf format) Thought Clusterf#ck Mind Map
Battle Tactics: Thought Shifting
So perhaps by this time you’re thinking, “all these thought models are fantastic, Liz, but really, how much time do you think I have to be sitting around doing thought work?” Trust me, I get that, and this week’s thought work model is for those of you who are super stressed and barely have time […]
Battle Tactics: Self Coaching 101
This week we’re looking at another model for thought work. If Katie’s “the work” didn’t resonate with you, you might like this one instead – Self Coaching by Brooke Castillo. I love Brooke, though I’ve never gotten to work with her personally, only through various coaching products. She’s straightforward, honest, and has a gift for […]
Battle Tactics: The Most Powerful Spell Ever Invented
Last week we went over the difference between clean and dirty pain, and how our own thoughts can cause suffering. This week, we get to talk about what to do about those painful thoughts – we’re applying the most powerful spell ever invented! That spell is “The Work” by Byron Katie. I highly recommend checking […]
Battle Tactics: Recognizing Clean vs. Dirty Pain
I’m excited to be sharing with you all the beginning of a series of posts on how to reduce your suffering way faster than you could believe. Recognizing “clean” and “dirty” pain is the very first step on this path, so let’s get started! There’s a school of psychological thought called Acceptance & Commitment Therapy […]