This month’s book review is on Darrin Wiggins’ How To Set Goals: Your Goal Setting Bible For Maximum Personal Achievement; I confess that I did not love this book, though there were many wonderful things about it. It’s really hard for me to identify with a book with a sample ten year vision that includes […]
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How You Do Anything Is How You Do Everything
We use this phrase in coaching fairly often, and about half the time I completely get it; the other half I’m mystified to make it work in my own life. So when I saw a workbook with that exact title by Cheri Huber, I decided to pick up a copy to see if it helped […]
Anatomy of Change: Welcome to the Promised Land
Congratulations, you finally made it! After a seemingly endless hero’s saga, you’ve arrived here in the promised land. You might think that this wouldn’t even rate an article, since you’ve now achieved your dream and are (theoretically) living happily ever after. There are still some things to trip you up here, and some ways to […]
Anatomy of Change: Embracing Your Hero’s Saga
Chances are you’re in the hero’s saga of the change cycle in at least one area of your life right now. (If you missed what the Hero’s Saga is, check out last week’s post.) If you’ve been at it for any amount of time, you already know it can be daunting, tiring, and can make […]
Anatomy of Change: Get Your Frodo On
You all know by now that I’m (just slightly) obsessed with The Lord of the Rings – both movie and book versions. This week we’re looking at Square Three of the change cycle – the Hero’s Saga. This where you start moving from dreaming and scheming to taking real action towards your dreams. So if […]
Anatomy of Change, Phase Two: Dreaming and Scheming
Usually (at least for me) Square One of the change cycle feels eternal, and it’s when I’ve given up on it ever ending that I start moving slowly into Square Two. The dreaming and scheming phase of change is usually ushered in by a glimmering of hope, and a lifting of the pall that seems […]
Anatomy of Change: Surviving Your Death & Rebirth
So you’re in Square One of the change cycle. First off, I’m really sorry. I know it’s not pleasant, but I hope identifying your potential death, liminal phase, and rebirth last week helped to at least make it feel like it’s survivable. Today we’re going to go through some strategies to make this as painless […]
Anatomy of Change, Phase One: Dying and Being Reborn
We’re looking at the Death & Rebirth square of the change cycle this week. This is one of my favorites, mainly because I have spent so much time either in this square, or hanging out in the Stagnant Pond trying to avoid this square. It’s messy, ugly, and often scary, and most of us do […]
Get the Best Meta Skill Ever (besides reading)
For the next five weeks, we’re going to be learning the meta skill of navigating change using Martha Beck’s Change Cycle model. Meta skills are skills which apply to broad categories of things. So, for example, if you knew how to make amazing guacamole, that’s a skill. If you decided you wanted to make a […]
Are You Stagnating?
“If you realize that all things change, there is nothing you will try to hold on to. If you are not afraid of dying, there is nothing you cannot achieve.” This quote from Lao Tzu is profound, true, and contrary to what most of us would like to be true. Possibly you are an enlightened […]