Why do you get out of bed in the morning?
Because I feel my life has a purpose. And that is a pretty good feeling! This is nothing exclusive; I really believe everyone’s life has a purpose. In my case it took me 20 years before I started considering this, then began believing it and some more before I trusted it.
Tell us about the lessons you learned from one of the worst times in your life; how has this experience made you into the person you are?
There were some pretty rotten times where I was completely lost. This resulted in depression and anorexia. I was in so deep in the ugliness and hopelessness of it all, that I finally didn’t care enough about my anarchist atheistic pride to let it stop me. There was a moment where I had a conversation with someone I knew superficially about her Christian faith (I remember wearing my cut up feminist T-shirt that day) and I felt such a deep yearning to see meaning and sacredness in the sunset we were walking in. That’s when it all started changing. Over the 2 years that followed there were rapid and big changes. I had to leave it all behind: friends, lifestyle, beliefs, appearance, addictions… Nobody understood but I didn’t care. I knew I was done with the distractions and I was on to a deeper truth.
Will you tell us about any of the amazing things that has happened in your life, and how they came to be?
After about 5 years of incredibly lonely and difficult soul searching, yet feeling I must be on the right track, I was walking alone in the city one night and I had a spontaneous breakthrough into a sense of oneness. It was utterly familiar yet so surprising, I could do nothing but laugh out loud.
What are you passionate about?
Living from wordlessness and oneness. This has been my passion and love for the past 17 years. I can’t believe what a slow and sloppy student I am but it has been worth every minute. Whenever I remember to allow that state, amazing things happen and I feel I truly am on my path. Then life happens and I get distracted, but I keep finding my way back, thank God.
If you could choose one thing to heal in the world, what would it be and why?
Disconnection. I feel human experience can be so incredibly lonely and lost because of it. If I could heal it, I would.
How does your own experience of healing enable you to help others, or be a light to the world in some way?
I do believe we all have to go our own path, that no one can do it for me or for you. But the example of others that have realized or accomplished something that is inspiring to me has been a great source of hope and nourishment. If I can offer that kind of nourishment to someone else, that would make me really grateful. Knowing how important others have been to me in that way deepens my commitment to being true to my path. Right now I feel coaching allows me to share some of what I have learned with others. Even though coaching isn’t about me but about the inherent wisdom of the client, I feel it makes a difference that I trust life to be inherently good and supportive of what is true for each of us as individuals.
If you had only one piece of advice to give to yourself as a baby, what would it be?
Trust what you love and yearn for.
Was there any particular book, person, or film that had particular impact on you that you would like to share with us?
There were so many. But Martha Beck’s impact has been enormous. I feel I have found a voice through learning her coaching method that I didn’t have before.
Is there a question that I didn’t ask that you wish I would have? If so, what is it? I’d love to hear the question and the answer!
‘What’s your favorite form of play?’
…because I’m curious about that with other people!
For me, it’s having a coffee and watching people in a café I’ve never been before, or cooking a nice meal for someone I love, or anything that involves laughing out loud.
Is there a way our readers can connect with you or learn more about you?
My coaching website is www.thewordlessnesscoach.com