What area of your life is just not working? Where do you feel stuck, unable to create a different experience, a result you want? Let’s change that today. In honor of American Independence Day yesterday, we’re going to declare our independence and get out of this old rut. I’m exploring online dating right now, and […]
Declare Your Independence
The Amazing Power of Deliberate Intent
Have you seen something like The Secret, or heard of the Law of Attraction, but thought it sounded just too good to be true? Sometimes the presentation of the idea behind Law of Attraction sounds almost ludicrous: envision yourself with a Mercedes, and somehow a Mercedes will magically manifest for you. Or maybe you believe […]
Is it Time to Dethrone Your Mother?
Something has been happening to me over the last month or so, sparked by my own writing about appreciating who you are. (As is so often the case, I’m drawn to write about what I most need to learn in the moment.) I’ve come to this revelation: My “standard of excellence,” the bar by which […]
Give Yourself Some Credit
Recently I read an article that said that attorneys and accountants are more likely to be critical of their spouses and families than people in other professions. The author said this was due to these people focusing almost entirely on finding errors as a fundamental component of their jobs. In an entirely unscientific multi-year study […]
7 Steps to Love Your Life Right Now
Can you tell me the areas of your life that most need improvement right now? Can you tell me the things you need to do, the things you would like to buy, the experiences you would like to have? I’m going to guess that you can. Can you also tell me the areas of your […]
Appreciating Who You Are: 3 Steps to Start the Process
Do you ever criticize yourself for not being a certain way? Do you wish you were great at making small talk, or doing detailed research, or “reading” a situation accurately? What if took the energy wasted on wishing or striving to be someone you are not and redirected it to appreciating who you are right […]
Cranky? Judgmental? Try This.
This week a wise friend shared her experience of listening to an inspirational teacher advising to respond to others as she would like to be treated in that situation. The teacher sparked something in her, and she’d been practicing that energy with one of her beloved people. I’ve watched her transform her own responses in […]
Fired? Forget About It!
I’m doing some contract work for a company that is in the process of laying off nearly 15% of their workforce. The office is very tense, morale is low, and rumors are flying as everyone waits to see who stays and who goes. “No one is safe” is a phrase I’m hearing way too often. […]
Do This to Reach Your Goals
This month’s book review is on Darrin Wiggins’ How To Set Goals: Your Goal Setting Bible For Maximum Personal Achievement; I confess that I did not love this book, though there were many wonderful things about it. It’s really hard for me to identify with a book with a sample ten year vision that includes […]
Are You Failing? Try This to See Why
You might be familiar with this story: you create your vision. You create goals to support that vision. Then, you do absolutely nothing related to that goal or vision, except feel vaguely bad about not moving towards it. Welcome to the club. I cannot tell you the number of times I have done this. Often, […]