What area of your life is just not working? Where do you feel stuck, unable to create a different experience, a result you want? Let’s change that today. In honor of American Independence Day yesterday, we’re going to declare our independence and get out of this old rut. I’m exploring online dating right now, and […]
Declare Your Independence
Is it Time to Dethrone Your Mother?
Something has been happening to me over the last month or so, sparked by my own writing about appreciating who you are. (As is so often the case, I’m drawn to write about what I most need to learn in the moment.) I’ve come to this revelation: My “standard of excellence,” the bar by which […]
Is Your Workplace a Dysfunctional Family System?
People hear screaming behind closed doors and no one discusses it. “Everyone” knows you’re not supposed to spend more than five minutes getting your morning coffee. “Everyone” knows that in order to get ahead, you need to volunteer to lead employee teams even if you hate groups. There are all types of bizarre and unspoken […]
I Know the Truth About You
A few years ago I fell in love with an incredible man who did not love me. While a painful experience, it was also one of the very best gifts I’ve ever received. It came with clear sight – at least when it came to him – and there’s few things that have changed me […]
Selves of Future Past
Recently I (finally) saw the latest X-Men movie. I won’t spoil it for you if you haven’t seen it yet, but think I can safely tell you this small part – the movie is partially set in a time when Charles Xavier is in the middle of a personal crisis. He doubts he has what […]
Anatomy of Change: Surviving Your Death & Rebirth
So you’re in Square One of the change cycle. First off, I’m really sorry. I know it’s not pleasant, but I hope identifying your potential death, liminal phase, and rebirth last week helped to at least make it feel like it’s survivable. Today we’re going to go through some strategies to make this as painless […]
Anatomy of Change, Phase One: Dying and Being Reborn
We’re looking at the Death & Rebirth square of the change cycle this week. This is one of my favorites, mainly because I have spent so much time either in this square, or hanging out in the Stagnant Pond trying to avoid this square. It’s messy, ugly, and often scary, and most of us do […]
I am…Really? Are You Sure?
One of my guilty pleasures is watching YouTube parodies of music videos, and one of my favorites is Bart Baker’s parody of “What About Love” by Austin Mahone. (If you don’t know who Austin Mahone is, don’t worry, it just means you’re older than 13. I had to go look him up.) In it, Bart’s […]
The Road to Mordor: Crossing the Dead Marshes
‘But I have seen them too. In the pools when the candles were lit. They lie in all the pools, pale faces, deep deep under the dark water. I saw them: grim faces and evil, and noble faces and sad. Many faces proud and fair, and weeds in their silver hair. But all foul, all […]
Marketing: An Unexpected Tool for Soul Evolution
Friends, if you ever want to spend some quality time in the fetal position, I highly recommend starting a business that requires you to market your authentic self. If my own journey is anything to go on, there is nothing quite as effective in dredging up every single fear lurking in your unconscious and having […]