Have you ever felt like there is something in you that still needs healing, but it’s something you can’t quite pin down with words? All the therapy, processing, emotional thought work, and even physical release techniques just don’t seem to work, but you still have a sense there is some soul shrapnel that needs to […]
That Time I Nearly Attacked a Complete Stranger at a Bus Stop in Rome
Forgiving Yourself for Loving an Abusive Parent
A year and a half ago, I planned a pilgrimage to my father’s grave with the intention of repeatedly stabbing it, and perhaps finally letting go of the last of my anger towards him. It didn’t happen that way – the extraordinary week prior to the pilgrimage released the bitter remnants of my anger, and […]
Reclaiming Advent: Transformative Love
Last week I was determined to come up with some profound answers to the questions on hope and expectation, and share them with you today. It didn’t happen. My own week of living in the questions was beautiful, and I finally realized that nothing I can say would be any more interesting than whatever experiences […]
Battle Tactics: Recognizing the Freeze Response
I’m sure you are familiar with our instinctive fight or flight response to immediate threat. What you might not be aware of is the third response called freeze. I’m writing about this because learning of it was incredibly helpful for me in terms of trauma recovery. Peter Levine, in his book Waking the Tiger: Healing […]