So you’re in Square One of the change cycle. First off, I’m really sorry. I know it’s not pleasant, but I hope identifying your potential death, liminal phase, and rebirth last week helped to at least make it feel like it’s survivable. Today we’re going to go through some strategies to make this as painless […]
Anatomy of Change: Surviving Your Death & Rebirth
Anatomy of Change, Phase One: Dying and Being Reborn
We’re looking at the Death & Rebirth square of the change cycle this week. This is one of my favorites, mainly because I have spent so much time either in this square, or hanging out in the Stagnant Pond trying to avoid this square. It’s messy, ugly, and often scary, and most of us do […]
Get the Best Meta Skill Ever (besides reading)
For the next five weeks, we’re going to be learning the meta skill of navigating change using Martha Beck’s Change Cycle model. Meta skills are skills which apply to broad categories of things. So, for example, if you knew how to make amazing guacamole, that’s a skill. If you decided you wanted to make a […]
Becoming the Person Who Has Achieved Your Dream
Happy New Year! Today I want to share with you an alternative way to look at achieving your goals and dreams. I loathe resolutions, but love the fresh energy of a new year, and think it’s a fantastic time to start scheming out your dreams. All you need is your own dream, some time to […]
Looking for Clues
A dear friend of mine is always inviting all around her to look for clues to the changes we hope to see happening in our lives and in the world. I love her for this – one amongst a million reasons – because it reminds me, always, to be on the side of hope. Keeping […]
Overcoming Your Fun Resistance
Friends, I am quickly writing this week’s post so I can dash off to do “ecstatic dance” somewhere in the middle of Topanga Canyon. I should be excited about it, right? I’m not. Right now, nothing is sounding better than lingering around my apartment, rereading A Memory of Light. I am going, though, because I […]
The Road to Mordor: The Cost of Staying in Rivendell
“I would’ve fucked you.” This sentence, said by a dear friend years after we met, is what truly convinced me to take this “impossible” journey. Should I have been offended? Well, maybe, but that was not my reaction at all. I was both overjoyed and completely dismayed. Overjoyed cause this man is gorgeous and a […]
The Road to Mordor: Committing to the “Impossible” Journey
If, by chance, you do not know where Mordor is, you may want to stop reading this blog and instead go read Tolkien’s Lord of the Rings trilogy. (If you hate reading, the movies are also incredible.) From this point on, I’m going to assume that you are familiar enough with this work to understand […]